My dear client, coach, and colleague, Holly Doherty, has a great answer to the standard mentality of passing the buck, engaging in the blame game, and otherwise abdicating your role in your life.
You need to take responsibility for what is yours to take.
I have to say…
I love this.
It’s not taking responsibility for EVERYTHING that goes sideways in your life. Not all aspects of a situation are your fault.
But it is taking responsibility for what is – owning that, figuring it out, forgiving (if needed), and creating a plan so it doesn’t happen again.
This gives me tremendous freedom in my life – from anything from my finances, business, writing, courses I take, and even parenting and housework.
Like back in February when I got the flu (and then Small Thing got it) and before I knew it… POOF! a whole month was gone.
Was I responsible for getting sick?
But I was responsible for keeping in contact with clients and then picking up the pieces of my business (and bank account) and getting back to work. When March was marked by the virus and the whole world getting turned upside down, figuring out what was MY responsibility allowed me to keep moving forward each day.
Am I fully responsible to get my writing done?
Does it mean that it’s always easy?
But I utilize my own “mini-goals” to help me out.
Same goes for any investment I make in training, mentorship, or coaching. Just last month, I bought a ticket to a great live-but-virtual event. Except I KNEW I wasn’t going to be able to attend – so I also bought the VIP Upgrade Replay Package. When that arrives, it’s 100% up to me to DO THE WORK.
And last week, at my own live-but-virtual event, it was the responsibility of each attendee to either attend OR buy the recordings (and then listen to them!) We had people there from FOUR countries and six time zones. And it went GREAT!